Dear "Juannut",
Hi. I donated a kidney non-directed 12 years ago. I have not had your same experience, but let me toss some thoughts your way in case any of them might be of help.
--- The donation process (whether to a known or unknown recipient) has been described by many as a "roller coaster ride". There is anticipation and preparation, thrills and chills, ups and downs. Then it is suddenly "over" once the surgery is done and basic recovery has taken place. But it is not really "over" because it can be a life-changing experience, and it may take a while for all the thoughts and emotions to get sorted out. Be patient with yourself. It may take a while. Now you are looking back, while before the surgery you were always looking forward.
--- You might want to get involved as a volunteer with the National Kidney Foundation (
www.kidney.org). They have a lot of educational and screening activities to help people spot and treat kidney disease BEFORE transplantation becomes necessary. They also do fund-raising ("Kidney Walks", etc.) To raise money for research and treatment.
--- I have several times taken part in the "Transplant Games" which take place every 2 years (this July in Houston).
Transplant recipients (heart, kidney, lung, liver, intestine, etc.) from living and deceased donors take part in athletic events to celebrate their new health and to honor their donors (known and unknown). Donor families attend to SEE the results of their generous donation of a loved one's organs after death. Living donors compete to celebrate their recovery, and to support each other. Where else will you find more than a hundred living donors in one place having a good time and chewing the fat? You would not see the results of your gift in YOUR recipient, but you would see what transplantation has done for others. You can locate your State or local team at
www.transplantgamesofamerica.org . Even if you don't attend yourself, you could take part in your local organizing and fund-raising activities so that others could go. You might feel more a part of the "transplant community" and not so much a "Lone Donor". (There are assorted videos of the Games if you search "Transplant Games" or "U.S. Transplant Games" at
www.youtube.com)
So, there are some thoughts. Hope you find something helpful.
Fr. Pat