I had a rough day yesterday. I decided to donate my kidney to a friend after her kidney's failed because of type one diabetes. I didn't expect my family to be 100% all for it but I'm amazed and distraught how against it they actually are. I had my very last health assessment test yesterday at 3pm which was the CT scan. I've never had a CT scan before and the contrast dye they use, it turns out, I'm allergic to. I've never had an allergic reaction to anything in my entire life save a hive or two at the gym. I broke out in hives, my happy place and my tonsils swelled up, I couldn't swallow and my blood pressure was higher than I've ever seen in my life. I was scared. I'm ok but it was just distressing because I've never had that happen before.
The first thing my sisters said when I told them what happened was "So you're not going to do it now, right?" I couldn't call my mom because she's so freaked out over this. My husband I could talk to but he's not here with be because of the military. I feel so alone and worn out right now.
I'm young (27). Except for a bad SI joint, I'm the picture of health, they should put my face on a billboard with an inspirational quote. There's no history in my family, or my husbands family of any kind of kidney related diseases except for some kidney stones and high blood pressure (which because of my life style, I'm at low risk for anyways). There is no reason anyone in my family should ever need a kidney from me.
Oh, and then they're like "What if you're kid needs a kidney, what if I need a kidney". I don't even have kids. My family, while they're not as healthy as me should never need a kidney themselves.
I think the thing that bothers me the most. The thing that really gets on my nerves is the dumb assumptions that they're making. They assume I'm going into this like my friend was like "Oh, hey, I need a kidney, can I have yours?" and I was like, "Yeah, sure." I have RESEARCHED THE HELL OUT OF THIS!!!!!!! I had one sister say to me "You know you can't drink alcohol with just one kidney?" I wish I could slap the stupid out of her. Oh, and my other sister, I told her that I spoke with the doctors and they all agree I should be 100% ok within 2 months after the surgery and she's like "They're the doctors, of course they're going to tell you you'll be all right, they want you to do this." Seriously? Like they're getting a commission for every kidney surgery they donate. My surgeon only needs two more kidney transplants and he gets that free trip to Hawaii. My mom, who is normally a very smart women.... I've been telling her and keeping her updated since the beginning and she's sooo worried about me. Oh, but her friend's son donated a kidney and he's ok so that makes her feel better. I'VE BEEN TELLING HER SINCE THE BEGINNING I'LL BE OK IN THE END!!!! But does she believe me? NO!!!!!!!
I know there are risks!!!! I've know more than anyone else out there, not directly related to the medical field, about this procedure. I know more than my friend and she's the one who needs the kidney and my family assumes I'm an idiot. It makes me so upset!
Yesterday, and I know this sounds stupid, but yesterday all's I wanted to hear after I had that bad reaction was, " I'm so sorry Leah you had that reaction, but you're ok now and in the end, it's worth it. What you're doing is so great and you're so healthy that you'll be ok." Not "Well, why are you doing it then". f-ing jerks.
This is the first time in 14 years I wish I wasn't an atheist. (ok, the second time). I know if I was like "Ok, god's telling me I should do this" people would back the hell up and support me. If god was telling me that I should give away an organ it would be ok but the fact that I just feel like this is the right thing to do, I know this is the right thing to do, I'm crazy.
I feel like, after all the research after all the doctors, there's not a good enough reason not to do this. Afterward my life's going to almost 100% the same. I'm a healthy girl and most of the changes a person has to make after they donate I either want to do anyways (I realllllly shouldn't drink as much as I do) or I'm already doing on a day to day. I don't smoke, I don't eat fast food, junk food or meat (mostly, I'm not perfect), I exercise regularly, I don't do drugs. I'm going to be ok.
The most important thing, I think though, is the girl I'm donating to, her life will improve DRASTICALLY!!!! That the most important thing. I wish my family could see that.