Sperry,
I am so sorry to hear about your Dad. That must have been devastating, especially after risking so much to try and save him. I hope you have the support you need from friends and family during this difficult time. In addition to everything surrounding your father's illness and passing you are also faced with the challenge of your own health.
It is interesting that you say, there was nothing anyone could have said that would have changed your mind about donating. That is what is so difficult in family donations. It is practically impossible to have true informed consent because of the connection and bond between family members. And as you said, even if they would have described the recovery and risks (which they may have but it was hard to absorb) you wouldn't have declined to donate. That is why donors need independent advocates to help with the decision about surgery. In liver donation especially, patients are often so sick and transplant is the last resort. It is hard to predict the survival rate after a surgery like this for a patient who usually has so many complications. Some hospitals have stopped their living liver donation programs, voluntarily or mandated by government agencies, due to donor complications.
Again, I am so sorry for your loss and wish you all the best during your recovery process. Would love to hear how you progress over time and hope you keep us posted on your progress.
Sherri