Hi, I am sorry for your loss. Well, I donated my kidney to my sister almost 8 yrs ago on 12/30/03. She was very ill then and either she go on dialysis or get a transplant. Both my parents were on dialysis. My sister just couldn't bring herself to go on dialysis because she didnt feel that was a quality of life she wanted to live. So, she decided not to do anything and live her life as she pleased. Meanwhile, I arranged to have the tests done by my own physician for donation. Before my mother passed she told me to take care of my sister. Well Im the youngest and I knew what I had to do. I didnt give my sister any choice in the matter and told her I promised our mother we would take care of each other. So, I did the whole process we matched exactly and we had the surgery. She did pretty well for quite awhile until November of 2009. She got sick and was hospitalized for some gastro/flu symptoms. Well, many tests were run and she was diagnosed with cirrhosis of the liver. She's doesn't drink or do drugs. The doctor said it was called Cryptogenic Liver Cirrhosis. She is in the final stage. I took her to a Hepatolgist in Denver he gave her 1 yr. She even went for a second opinion in Texas regarding a liver transplant. Her kidneys still function but she's had numerous complications from the liver. So, we treat her w meds and pray that each day is 1 more day we have w her.
I was devasted to hear all this and thought maybe I could donate again a piece of liver. My health unfortnately is not as good and my sister has chosen not to attempt a transplant w all her medical issues/complication and the whole ordeal again. Yes, I feel your pain. I thought hey my sister has a few more years w her grandkids and our family. Yet, it will be shortlived. I guess the best thing you can do is remember the good times and know you gave your father life and that is something you should be proud of. Emptyness yes, but as everything must pass we to must move on with our lives. Dont' you see as long as we can remember our loved ones are not gone they surround us each and every day. I truly believe this. So, hang in there take it one day at a time.