Hi, Poodles.
I remember being annoyed that I was not able to meet by surgeon beforehand. We met as they were moving me from the gurney to the operating table. Somehow, it just seemed too late to pull out my list of questions.
I mean, I'd been given some chance to discuss my questions with another surgeon, from the transplant program, but I really wanted to size up the fellow who'd be cutting me. Actually, I guess I shouldn't complain: we did meet again. I think the day after surgery he blasted into the room, squeezed my foot to wake me up, and asked me if I was OK. I must have said something meaningful like "Uh, what, who, uhhh....", at which point he took off. I never saw him again.
But, as Elephant put it so nicely, it was surgery, not lunch. And the surgery went OK for me. I'd prefer that to having had a warm relationship with my surgeon, but a poor outcome.
Be well, Snoopy