So, I'm so glad that I posted here first because I came to the conversation in a much better place and I was really surprised at what she had to say.
If you haven't read my first post, my parents are long time divorced and I wasn't sure what my mom would say about me wanting to donate to my father.
She understood and respected that I didn't come to this decision lightly. Yes, if I donate, she will be here to help post-op. But, she doesn't want me to.
Her concern is that diabetes runs in our family on both sides and that if one of my children should need a kidney in the future, then I wouldn't have one to give. Very valid point. Something surely to think about and input from anyone here would be appreciated. I had considered that I could be diabetic in the future (I did have gestational diabetes) but I feel like having that knowledge helps me take better care of myself. Not all diabetics end up on dialysis, right? But what about my kids? It doesn't seem right to "save" my kidney for someone else when Dad needs one now. But, would I regret it in the future if something should happen to my child?
She then added, with tears, that she will always love my father and wishes there was something she could do to help. It was a very touching conversation that I believe has brought us even closer together.
So GLAD it's over, though. lol.
Thanks for all the support.