Our local center has a support group for transplant recipients (any organ). We have a wide range of attendees including spouses and family members, and have had spouses of potential living donors attend. You are right in that it is definitely geared towards the recipient. But the social worker running the meetings has really made a point of including every attendee in the conversations, and has encouraged everyone to discuss on obtain the support of the group for their own fears and challenges. While they may not have approached you directly, I would ask specifically to speak with the social worker. I remember that, even before being involved in the process, that I , as the spouse, had my own meeting with the social worker when my husband was going through the evaluation process for the list. So I would think they should be more than willing to talk with you. If you get no satisfaction, as Sherri suggested, I would seek my own support. It is worth the peace of mind. It is a stressful situation, to say the least, and the anticipation added to the process, in my opinion, makes it worse. Good luck to you, and I hope you are able to talk with someone that will relieve your anxiety and fears. Bestof luck -