Hi, Bertina (and to whomever else this is relevant)....
There were many excellent responses to your original post. I, too, congratulate you on your selfless act, and wish you a full, speedy, happy, and fulfilling recovery!
Beyond what everybody else already wrote, I just want to emphasize that, whether you know it or not, your recipient may not be having such a simple recovery, physically or emotionally. He might be wrapped up with his own recovery and readjustment. And, as others have suggested in this and other threads, recipients may be reluctant to tell their donors about their post-transplant difficulties, for various reasons. In my own case, my non-directed recipient and I did become close friends, talk regularly, and have always shared our lab values, etc. Yet with all that, I'm never 100% sure if he is leaving out some unpleasant medical news when he talks to me, to spare me (or for any other reason, as is of course his right). But I do know he has not exactly bounced back physically as well as many others' recipients have.
And, beyond questions of the "tyranny of the gift" (it's not easy to thank somebody who donated to help save your life), it is very, very true that there is a lot of white-washing, or at least soft-peddling, of donor risk. I have definitely seen material encouraging donation that claimed that there was "no risk" to the donor, and it's not surprising to hear that the "system" tells transplant candidates that there's very very little or even no risk to the donor, so why not ask the whole family to come down and get tested? Suffice it to say, that's doing a lot of people a big disservice.
I hope some of this proves useful to you. But in the end, you did a beautiful thing, and may that cheer you up!
Be well, Snoopy