A friend of mine was the first person to offer to get tested when we realized my husband would need a kidney. She filled out the initial paperwork with UCSF. There were many delays (Blue Cross wouldn't pay for donor testing until my husband went on dialysis) and then eventually it worked out that I could donate through a paired exchange.
Well, that friend is such an amazing, giving person, that she decided she still wanted to donate to *someone, anyone*. So, she recontacted UCSF and told them to match her up with a recipient. She assumed she would start a chain, but then they found her a match. A single recipient who had been on the deceased donor list for years, dialysis for 10, and everyone thought she would never find a match because of some particular health issue. Well, my friend was the perfect match for her, and the transplant successfully happened almost 2 years ago.
So, rest assured we do understand your feelings of disappointment at not being the one to donate. I shared this story to let you know that this doesn't have to be the end for you, if you don't want it to be.
Cheers,
Kara