Okay, so I was approved by the transplant comittee to become a donor last week. I spoke with the coordinator, and she had to check with the surgeons, but we decided unofficially on April 23rd for surgery. Well, my recipient saw his doc yesterday, and they want to do a more sensitive crossmatch on the 16th because he has developed a new antibody. I spoke with the coordinator again, and she said that we are going to go ahead and schedule for the 23rd so that we don't lose the OR, but it's possible we will have a positive crossmatch when we have this next test (this is not the preop cxm, that will be the day before).
Has anyone else had a similar experience or bump in the road like this? I'm kinda freaking out.
What if we've come this far for nothing? It could take months or years to find a compatible paired donation.
So, as it stands, even though the surgery has been scheduled, travel arrangements have been made, leave from work has been approved and we've gotten this far, I won't know for sure that I'll be able to donate to him until 4 days before the surgery.
How on earth am I going to make it through the next two weeks without becoming a total basket case?